The Bond (TarValon.Net)
This page was created based on the Membership Manual page about the bond and will be edited to fit the style of the rest of the main body of the Library.
What is the Bond?
The bond in The Wheel of Time is created using the One Power and creates a link between a channeler and the chosen bondmate in most cases. At TarValon.Net, the bond signifies a special relationship between two members of the community, regardless of their membership organization. This means that at TarValon.Net an Aes Sedai can bond a Gaidin, but also another Aes Sedai if they so choose. This choice is also available for the Gaidin. The only requirement for a Bond is that both members must be Senior Members.
No one can be forced into a bond, nor is anyone supposed to promise their bond until they are a Senior Member. Junior Members are discouraged from discussing the topic of potential bondmates, and if the administration finds that a Junior Member has promised their bond, disciplinary action will be initiated. The bond is not a means of signifying that you are in a romantic relationship with another member of the site. In fact, very few of our members who are involved with each other are bonded; many are either not bonded at all or are bonded to someone else.
All Gaidin may have two bondmates. All Ajahs except the Green Ajah and the Red Ajah may have one bondmate. In following the tradition set by the books in The Wheel of Time series, Green Aes Sedai may have two bondmates, and Red Aes Sedai do not have the option to bond. The exceptions are the people who have gained an extra bond as discussed below.
Applying for a Bond
If two Senior Members have decided to bond, they must send an email to the Director of Membership stating their intent to bond and why they wish to bond. The Director then has up to one month to approve a bond and make sure that the bond will be beneficial to both of you and to TarValon.Net. An exception is often made for people who are raised live at official events who may then be bonded at that event, under specific circumstances.
If your bond is approved, the Director will email their approval to you and your bondmate, thus making your bond official. The bond will be announced in the Site Announcements section of the forums. Once you are bonded, you will gain access to the Sitting Room/Great Room of your bondmate's Ajah/Company, you may state your bond in your signature, and the bond will be reflected in the Who's Who. In the rare event that the bond is not approved, the Director will let you know why.
The Extra Bond
With the introduction of the merit system, it is possible for Community Members to gain an extra bond. A member must have the following merits in order to earn this privilege:
- The Gold Senior Membership Merit denoting that the Community Member has been a Senior Member for at least five years;
- Four other Gold Merits (the Gold Membership Merit does not count for this)
This means that all Aes Sedai (except Red and Green Sisters) may have two bondmates, and all Gaidin three. Red Sisters may have one bondmate, and Green Sisters may have three.
Many members have the required merits to have earned the extra bond, but most have not taken the opportunity. Those that have are:
- Dralyn Montsier: Jayrik Thaurturion, Rollyn Montagorae and Rhed al'Tere
- Elanda Tonil: Alora Sionn and Stephen Lightheart
- Serenla Tamowith: Aves Keynes and Nethanel al'Tere
- Yelenia Hylraren: James Davion and Bao the Wyld
- Zashara Sho'am: Deoan Kakarot and Venric Methalion
Severing the Bond
If you wish to sever your bond, you and your bondmate must submit your request to the Director of Membership. Please state why you want to dissolve your bond. Dissolutions of bonds occur twice a year—January 1st and July 1st. Petitions will be accepted at any time during the year; however, only those received at least one month prior to the above dates will be approved for the upcoming term.
There are four reasons for dissolving a bond:
- Abandonment by one of the bondmates. This reason is given when one of the bondmates disappears completely from the community and has no contact with their bondmate for a significant period of time. In the case of abandonment, only the remaining bondmate has to submit their request for dissolution.
- Real-life long-term relationships requiring dissolution or passing of the bond. Sometimes if a couple who met on TarValon.Net gets married, their bondmates will pass their bonds to the married couple so that they can be bonded to each other. Should one of the bondmates enter into a long-term relationship with someone that does not understand the nature of the bond and would feel more comfortable if that relationship did not exist, the bond may be dissolved.
- Real-life conflicts which make one party in the bond unable to fulfill their obligations to the other. This can occur for a multitude of reasons.
- Bonds are automatically dissolved if one of the bondmates takes a voluntary demotion, retires permanently from the community, or is removed in a Membership Clean-Up.
In rare cases, the Amyrlin Seat may forcibly dissolve a bond that they feel is detrimental to the bondmates or to the community. If that occurs, both parties are subject to a three month waiting period before they may request another bond. Anyone who has had two bonds forcibly dissolved by the Amyrlin Seat will not be eligible to bond again.
- Main article: Bonding Dates
- Main article: Annual Bondings
The first known bonds were in 2001 and is believed to have been between either Eleyan Teyal Al'Landerin and Morni Stowers or Jorryn Gaille Varna and Thalion Krisman. The most recent bond was in July 2021 between Elanda Tonil and Stephen Lightheart.